Keeping it 100, I can’t believe more people aren’t commenting on the appalling circumstance of my Queen, Evelyn Lozada and Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson’s violent altercation. Reading up on various opinions on TUMBLR, it seems like Salt n Pepa had it right: “Opinions are like assholes, and everybody’s got one” (including me).
Firstly, I think it”s unacceptable that people are placing blame on Evelyn Lozada. Being headbutted by a professional athlete, who is trained to inflict injury upon others (who also happens to be your husband), is never deserved or warranted.
Despite the fact that some may argue that Evelyn may have promoted violence by being (occasionally and passively) violent on her reality show, “Basketball Wives,” I don’t quantify that type of violence and domestic violence in the same category.
Although it’s worth noting that she never actually headbutted anyone or caused physical injuries necessitating hospital care (as she endured). Nonetheless, it doesn’t take away from her brutalization at the hands of her husband.
From a humanistic standpoint, the idea that Chad Johnson, Evelyn’s husband-a man she loved and trusted-could cheat on her and then physically assault her in such a violent, brutal way is totally heart breaking. From a practical standpoint, I am 100% happy that she decided to decisively initiate divorce proceedings.
Many abused women don’t exhibit such formidable strength after being brutalized by their husbands or boyfriends, and I’m pleased that Evelyn is setting an example for women everywhere that domestic violence is not to be tolerated.
Again, for those that may chirp away about Evelyn being publicly violent on her reality show-well-keep chirping away crickets, because I am not going to listen to that noise.
Inherently, domestic violence means violence that’s domestic-occurring in the home by a spouse or someone close to the victim (hence the domain of the domestic). Domestic violence is different from other forms of violence, because it implies an extreme violation of trust.
Being abused by someone you love (and trust) is far worse than being abused by someone you don’t have any attachments to (in my opinion).
Now, I’m not advocating for general violence. Violence is a brute, animalistic way of addressing a problem, or intimidating someone into doing what you want. It often doesn’t resolve the issue, and it’s not something to aspire to no matter how bad the circumstance.
Nonetheless, violence happens because humans are essentially intellectually sophisticated animals, who are far more closely connected to our genetically bestial legacy than most people care to acknowledge.
Now that the dust has settled, Chad Johnson has been discharged form his new contract with the Miami Dolphins, and the reality show documenting the romance of Evelyn and Chad (Evelyn and Ocho) has been cancelled by Vh1.
And I think that’s the right message to send. If you are abusive to your spouse or loved one (or anyone really), there should be consequences to suffer. It shouldn’t be like what happened with Chris Brown, where society slapped him on the wrist and he publicly doesn’t really seem to show any semblance of remorse.
While I understand that people are skeptical about Evelyn as a spokesperson for domestic violence, I support her 100% for displaying strength and setting an example to the masses. Being assaulted by someone is never acceptable or excusable, and I’m glad to see that there are finally some consequences.
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