Q: Could you give me some advice on making friends and adjusting from being away from home in college? I'm having a pretty hard time currently
The best advice I can give you is to STICK IT OUT. College is an amazing time in your life, and one that should be existentially, wholeheartedly enjoyed and relished. But you have to commit yourself to having a good time.
Since college is a rare care-free time in your life (relatively speaking), it should be treated as such. Once you get out of college, you’ll have to worry about your career and rent and car payments and your credit score and venereal diseases; and trust when I say that’s all stressful stuff. So I think that for right now-you need to embrace the moment and be like Carpe Diem (Cher Horowitz-voice)!
As for making friends, force yourself to be social, if it doesn’t come naturally to you. Try the following easy steps to being social: smile at people, strike up conversations after class in the dining hall, find a club(s) to join, get drunk with the people on your floor. Pick who you want to hang out with and pursue them (just make sure you’re picking the right people).
It’s really such a free time, because all of you are there-away from home-and it’s almost like adult camp, except with sex, alcohol, drugs (I’m not advocating you doing drugs btw-I’m just stating the reality of the situation), and certain amazing freedoms.
While I’m really, really excited to be starting some new chapters in my life as I approach 30 in a few short months, sometimes I still think about my time in college and am just like, “DAMN SON. COLLEGE WAS THE BOMB.”
If I had to guess-it sounds like you’re a freshman, so trust me when I say that you’ll get used to it all very soon, but again-force yourself to be social and commit to your own happiness.
And I guarantee you’ll be dropping it low, while crunk at a party, going home to make out with some cute boy/girl in no time flat. Just make sure that you try it all out and keep a positive, open mind about things (use your best judgment obviously). Now put down the laptop, dust your shoulders off, and get out there and be social.